I am super selective about the clients I choose to work with, because working with people that decide not to follow through with the training plan, is absolutely heartbreaking. Every day, people call me genuinely struggling with dangerous dog behavioral issues, and yet their relationship is so emotionally unbalanced with their dog, they balk at things like crate training. "Muffin can't sleep in a CRATE! Muffin is my friend! Besides, Muffin LOVES MY BED! So he bites my significant other? Muffin is my friend/child/furbaby, and he has every right to be comfortable!" -I believe, people who are struggling with their unbalanced dog, should consider demonstrating their love for their dog through routine, and command repetititve structure, as opposed to hugs, kisses, treats, and human emotional feelings including sympathy, and love. My friend Dave, owner of Empowered K9 Training of Phoenix, Arizona, does a great job in this post, detailing the level of commitment required for real changes to be made, especially given more challenging dog personalities. -If you've got a really challenging dog issue you're dealing with right now, you've got to do what's right for your dog/dogs. Not what is perfectly emotionally comfortable to you.
"No matter what you think or how you feel, things will never get better or change with your dog(s) behavior unless you make owner lifestyle changes first.
Each week I get my fair share of people contacting me about issues they're having with their dog and they need help, and in most cases won't be able to keep the dog if they don't get help. I always start off with the same no more of this, that, that and this, and guess what happens 9/10 times I say those things....they tell me they can't do that or won't do what I tell them needs to be done in order to help their dogs and themselves. Very rarely do people say sure whatever you tell me to do I'll do it! It absolutely blows my mind every single time, and that's why I only work with 1 out of every 15-20 people that contact me. Even some of the ones I've worked with go back to being the same old dog owner just a few weeks after their dog goes home and that means their old dog prior to board and train will also show back up... some folks just never want to get ahead, get out of their own way or do right by their dogs because they're just to interested in themselves, their needs and what feels good and easy to them. The example I always use to relate to those situations is this... If you need/want to lose weight but keep eating unhealthy and don't exercise you're only going to continue to gain weight and you'll never lose any. It's either a 100% commitment to a lifestyle change or it's nothing in order to be successful or unsuccessful. Unfortunately most choose not to change or if they do, it's a half ass attempt with some excuses thrown in there as to why it is that way. I personally chose the 100% lifestyle change route and I have these two badass companions to show for it. Was it easy to change, no. It was one of the harder things I ever had to do (keep in mind I was an a emotional dog owner and not a logical one yet, many years ago), but I knew in order to for them to become the dogs they've become that it needed to be done. We lead a very healthy lifestyle, if you get what I'm saying smile emoticon
Final word. Stop bitching, complaining and getting frustrated about your dog's behavior, and stop asking for help if you're not willing to take a look at your own behavior and lifestyle and change it. And if you ask someone for help be prepared to hear an answer that doesn't fit into your lifestyle or who you currently are as a owner in order to fix it. Obviously what you've been doing or allowing hasn't been working, and it will continue for always and forever not to work. Even the most difficult of dogs are easier to train then the owner sometimes, and that's a fact!"